When we think about all of the physical changes that happen to teenagers on the outside during adolescence , it seem obvious that there would be a lot of changes happening inside as well. Maturity comes with experience. The prefrontal cortex, is the CEO of the brain, the part where we think ahead, consider consequences and manage emotional impulses and urges.The hormones kicking in at puberty cause all sorts of emotional swings. Just when the adolescents need the mosey , the PFC’s abotlity to act rationally is offline. It’s so much for teens roller coaster emotions.

Establish Clear , simple limits and firm consequences

1. When you make a rule, enforce it consistently.

2. Let children know what consequence will be if they cross the limit or break the rule.

3. Consequences should always be logical.

4. Remind them of the consequence of needed but don’t nag or lecture.

Action speaks Louder than tomorrow.

1. Do not flip-flop your parenting . Be consistent

2. Age and temperament differences between children mean that we need to respond differently to each child.

3. Don’t give in if your child gets upset woth a consequence.

4. Don’t turn every small mistake of your child into a battle.

5. Don’t ignore consistent bad behaviour

6. Don’t overreact , have the consequence fit the behaviour

Self esteem doesn’t always mean getting things right in fact mistakes are the great teachers. Tell your kids if at first you don’t succeed try again and give your best. Setbacks build self esteem , as long as child learns to keep trying , from the twelve month old stand to seven year old struggling to learn new skills, but the efforts are eventually rewarded as they get more and more steady in whatever they try do.

Self-esteem needs to be reality based . Parents and teachers should serve a Mirror reflecting back to kids an accurate appraisal of how they are doing. Hollow praise acts like a funny Mirror giving kids a distorted picture. Kids who have always received reflections from a funny mirror end up with a distorted image of themselves. Managing drives and emotions is a prerequisite for success. When a kid can manage his emotions , can discipline himself and delay gratification , he is more likely to complete his homework, assignments learn skills and gets along successfully with other kids.

1. What do I want to continue about my parenting and my relationship with my child(ren)

2. What do I want to Change

Once you determine what do you want to change , you can plan to take Action according to the following three Steps.

1. Become aware of what do you need to change.

2. Consciously choose how you want to act.

And the most important

3. Repeat the action until it becomes comfortable.

No builds a foundation for self discipline , self respect and respect for others , integrity and host to other character trait that leads to a happy and productive life.

In today’s permissive society , many parents think that they can’t say No but they should understand the stakes of not saying No is high like A culture of disrespect , Academic Achievement , way too high expectations from kids. The question here is what kind of adult do you hope your kids will become if they never know the meaning of No in life.

Example Like : Kids always do what they see not what they listen or told to do. Have you ever noticed why this happens why do they imitate Parents ?? The answer is because you (Parents) are their real hero’s , for them whatever their parents does is right and they want to become like them. You are the best for them so just imagine what ever you do they will follow you. So watch your habits you kid is on the same path ….

Energy flows where’s the focus goes if you focus on providing action oriented happy environment which is full of Energy and love … your kids will always be optimistic and joyful. Thats what really matters , their environment plays an important role in building their behavioural patterns.

Parenting Tip #3

Dance is a very good way of spending time with kids , this way they feel connected to you as they follow a set of sequence of steps you do and have fun. It makes the Energy high & child feels happy.